We've been dating 70 days. We had an unrelated issue and I asked her what are some things that have been bothering her. She said hat she kind of feels like I don't make her a priority or don't put effort in to go on dates. Because most of the time, we do the same type of easy stuff like food or a movie, and that I just get off work and then call her to see if she wants to hang out. I think the point she was trying to make is that I don't usually pre-plan dates like on Saturday we will do this. That I'm indecisive.

But in the 70 days we've been dating, and I've never done this for any other woman (so I put the most amount of work and effort ever), in 70 days I've paid for 99% of meals, went out for decent meals like sushi for dinner and cute breakfast place (she seems happy because she photographs the location and meals), I bought us both amusement park season passes and went twice, bought us movie memberships and have seen 3-4 movies together already, keep trying to get tickets to a play she wants to see, bought Disneyland tickets a few months in advance, and after work I make her a priority to see her over my family/dog and friends, as well as now neglecting the gym for the past 1.5 months.

I didn't tell her I did this and that for you in a patronizing way but I responded well when I think of putting in effort I do things like these.

It surprised me because those low effort, let's just chill at home and grab dinner after work are stuff I think normal couples would do most nights anyway.

Am I missing something or if this one of those examples where guys complain that women will never appreciate you no matter how much effort you put? I will say I do kind of understand those weekends that I don't pre-plan and am indecisive because it's my weekend off and I'm not a great planner nor explorer, but then again in a matter of 70 days I did place two days at a theme park and future trip to Disneyland.