34M. My job is 30 miles away. I’ve done that for 1.5 years. I’m probably a sissy because I’ve met numerous people who have had a similar or longer commute for much, much longer. But therapist also said my emotions are valid regardless of how it is for others. Traffic has gotten worse and it takes 55 minutes to get home with a motorcycle (I worry about safety). Forget about getting stuck in traffic with a car ($10-20 for express lane and still takes 75 minutes to get home.

There is a job that’s just 7 miles away. Two freeway exits off. I might never have to worry about a long work commute again. The thing is though it would be like me being a substitute technician. (Later down the line I could take a part or full time opening but that could take years).

I would work less and no longer have benefits. The working less part sounds kinda nice.

I see all these people who are homeless, or slang stuff without a 9-5 job, and they survive.

Basically I’m clinging onto a secure job but maybe that’s just like a baby not giving up a pacifier? I don’t want to get stuff in a secure, 9-5 for 30 years but is that actually a wise route?