Today is a good day to learn

How to find someone

I'm a 20 year old lad been in one relationship have had a fair amount of one night stands, on paper I'm doing well both financially and academically. But man my family situation and past is crippling me mentally, grew up with a decent amount of child abuse both sexual and physical. Try not to let it affect me but reckon it's a contributing factor to my alcohol and substance abuse problem. Its not necessarily an everyday thing I just don't know how to stop when I start. But as a new year dawns and the thoughts of a sober new years starts to enter my head so too does the thought of not picking up girls at bars and clubs. How does one interact with the opposite sex sober? Can my past drug use (heroin, crack, etc) be explained, do I disclose that I've no immediate access to my family and have spent the last 3 Christmas's alone or should I keep it under wraps if I find the mythical "one"?