The past few years has been really hard on me. I met the love of my life here in the U.S. and we started a beautiful relationship. Sadly, his visa was expiring and we had to start doing long distance. We have been doing long distance since June of 2023. Luckily I have a great job that lets me visit him 3 times a year and I’m seeing him this upcoming Saturday!!

We have been through a lot of failed visas. He was denied a student visa three times. Our lawyer suggested the K1 fiancé visa and that was denied too. We don’t know what happened with that visa. My fiancé doesn’t have a criminal record, he wasn’t married before, he never did the K1 with anyone prior to me. We weren’t given a clear answer from the government of what happened.

We’re filling one more time for a marriage visa. When I go to South Korea I’ll marry him, file the visa, and wait 1-1 1/2 years. If that doesn’t work I’m moving to South Korea. My fiancé he already has a secure job there and I’m looking into becoming a daycare teacher for young kids. So if it were to happen we have our plan in place.

My mom hasn’t been supportive at all. The only thing she does is cry over it and makes me feel horrible about having to possibly move. Since we had all these issues with visas my mom hasn’t made it easier. I feel like any other parent would tell their adult child they need to do what’s best for them. Not in my case because I just get met with a meltdown.

I tried talking to my mom last night about what I’m going through. She told me that she doesn’t want me to drive her in a deeper depression. Because she won’t be attending my wedding in Korea (she’s phobic of flying) and that she doesn’t want her Christmas ruined since I’m not going to be there. I’ll be in South Korea for Christmas to be with my fiancé and to marry him. I’m sorry but when my mom cries about this stuff I feel nothing. I’m so stressed out and sad about what’s going on in my own life. I don’t want to deal with my mom’s emotions too. I know if I move to South Korea I won’t hear the end of it and it could ruin her. I just want to be with my husband and have our lives together. I know if I move there with him instead of blaming the government for not letting him into the U.S. . My mom will blame my fiancé and make it all his fault. But I’m wondering has anyone here moved to another country and had to deal with a parent’s or family members negative reaction?