My wife is always been extremely sexual person, however, she has also often drank a few glasses of wine a few nights a week, was never really a big issue until lately for other reasons I’m not gonna get into. Our relationship is pretty solid right now and we are constantly working on things, like couples therapy that don’t have anything to do with my question. Anyway, anytime that I initiate sex my wife I don’t think has ever turned me down, I know that she very much enjoys being intimate with me and basically will never turn down the chance. However, lately it could be factors of stress fighting for different reasons, even though things are OK, but I feel that the only time she ever initiates is after a little bit of wine and it didn’t really hit me for a while, but then I started to notice that it kind of bothered me almost as if you had a booty call that you would call every time you got out of the bar. And I know it’s not that armful or hurtful because we’re married and things change and we’re both going through our own things. But we had a brief separation for just a week maybe about about a month ago, and when we came back together, I initiated after about three days and everything was great, and I have only initiated in the middle of the night for three times since then, and that’s something I’m thinking about my own actions and behavior. Why have that been the only time I have initiated. I might be a little shy or regressed a little bit in my, forwardness or desire I don’t know that’s my issue. But even before that she has not initiated in quite some time without having a drink or two and she has only initiated once since we got back after our one week break and I had to turn her down before she even tried because we both had a couple drinks, and she came out of the lingerie when we got home and I immediately knew because she’s my wife that she planned on initiating and unfortunately, I had to say something immediately instead of being anxious and waiting for her to attempt and I would have to turn her down, I think me saying something at first it started a little argument or disagreement, but we got over it and hung out the rest of the night. I think that was better than just waiting for her to initiate and turn her down at that moment and risk embarrassing her. Maybe it was easier to just bring it up with my feelings before it happened. But how would you guys feel or how would you address that. I basically told her that I feel like she either isn’t as attracted to me as she used to be and needs to have a buzz on, or maybe she has just regressed and is more self-conscious about the way that she looks? But I don’t think that’s the case or maybe it’s just the stress between us even though shementally requires a lot of affection and touching and intimacy without actual sex. So it’s kind of a weird situation. I would really want her to initiate at least a couple times without alcohol before I’m comfortable allow it to happen with alcohol involved.