My friend is a great person.

Funny, kind, intelligent, great taste. Comforting, fun to talk to, just a great well rounded person.

She has been in abusive relationships in the past. Not physically but emotionally and verbally abusive. And for whatever reason, her past boyfriends’ words have stuck with her.

She refers to herself as a “trash female”, and says she’s boring, says her personality sucks, says she’s not intelligent, all sorts of horrible things.

I disagree with all of them, I don’t even know what a “trash female” would be tbh.

She says it must be true since multiple exes said it to her, to which I retort that they said it out of bitterness, or cruelty, or jealousy or just to put her down because they themselves felt inadequate. Or that they said it to make themselves feel better at her expense.

We’ve been friends for two years and she says eventually I’ll see what they did, and not wanna bother with her

Nothing I say can change her mind, and it saddens me because she’s actually a terrific person.

Any advice?