I’m (woman) an openly sexual person and I tend to talk about sex very matter a factly. I like to believe I talk about sex like a sexual educator, but I’ve been noticing a thing where some men seem to think me talking about sex related topics means I want to have sex with them. When they ask to have sex, a lot of time they say it in a way like “let’s do it” in a very casual way like we’ve been intimate for a while (but we’ve never engaged in sexual behaviors ever). I would let them know I don’t want that from them and they get confused. So I let these guys know early on so this won’t happen again. One of my guy friends told me if I talk about sex with anyone (of any gender) they’re going to get horny and will naturally think I want sex with them so he asked me to stop talking to him about sex because of that ( we only talked about sex one time).

This doesn’t happen with all men but seemly a lot more than I would like. Should I avoid talking to men about sex?

Im wondering if their reaction is because they’re not use to sexual topic spoken between people and the only time they have this talk is through having sex or about to have sex.

ADD: I don’t talk about sex nonstop. It’s usually a naturally segue like when we start talking about our dating lives. I don’t talk about sex at work with co workers. I’m polyamorous, in the kink community, and know adult entertainers. Most people who are weird about sex talk are not in these groups which are a majority of people. These guys know I’m polyam but not all know about the other stuff. They usually find out by asking me questions.