I have been dating this woman for 3 months and we've been on several dates. We are not exclusive yet, but we both intend to keep seeing each other and basically see where things go.

Last time we met I suggested that we should become physically intimate / have sex, to which she responded that she needs a lot more time to see me in a sexual way, that she would need an emotional bond with me for having sex, and that bond isn't there yet, but she's hopeful.

I asked if she's demisexual and how she meets her sexual needs when single, to which she said that she's not demisexual and actually has a few FWBs she meets up with for sexual needs and sometimes even just hooks up with someone from a dating app. Its just that those FWB / hookup guys have to meet certain, high looks and physical criteria that I do not, that sex with me would just be "wasting a body count", and wouldn't make any sense to her unless we are in a long term committed relationship of some sort.

Am I wrong to feel really put off by this logic and find it twisted? I felt so bad that she thinks so low of me, considers me so inferior / repulsive, yet at the same time wants to proceed with a serious relationship.

My question for women (who do have sex when they're single) is, is this a normal way of thinking for you? Is there a deeper logic behind this way of approaching sex that I'm not getting?

More importantly, have you dated, been in relationships with, or married men you felt this way about?

My question for men is: Can you emotionally invest in and be sincere with a woman who thinks you're so physically and sexually inferior?