So one thing I love about Reddit.. I can pretty much just say what I literally am not comfortable with discussing with the people in my life about. For a back story: I met this guy, he really likes me, I really like him. I’m currently located in South Florida so we recently just dealt with several back to back hurricanes, and tornadoes. Shit was wild. Out of the blue (even though our relationship was very casual mainly based on me) he hit me up letting me know that he was thinking about me & wanted to know if I’d be ok I could stay with him. Awesome. I like him a lot as a person, he’s sweet, funny, not pushy, & we similar foundational values so it’s never pressure or anything odd when we’re together. He thinks I’m out of his league (which I later discovered from him, but I don’t like people mainly based on looks, I like what I like) which was odd bc again I had such a good time with him every time we hang out.

Fast forward I agreed, higher rise apartment we’ll be ok, & again it was so last minute due to the storm I was shocked he even thought of me & hit me up since we’d never discussed anything like that. I’m at his place, he didn’t want me to come by due to him wanting to clean up first. I’m like “man I have several brothers, guy friends, blah blah blah” even though most of the men in my life are actually neat freaks. Lol so I didn’t think it would be as bad.

When I arrived I was just super… idk grossed out? I literally feel bad even typing this. His bathroom has so much residue from soap? I asked him if I could just clean up myself, if he has a mop? & he said he didn’t own one he just uses a cloth.. sigh. On the contrary he eats very healthy conscious. It’s not even him or his body, it’s his apartment being beyond disgusting to the point I barely walk around without shoes. It took me 45 minutes to deep scrub his stove to cook us something. I would never ever say this to him, so here I am. I am looking for advice. I don’t even mind paying for a deep cleaning maid service. I just want to know how to approach him without hurting his feelings.