I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years, and for as long as I can remember, I’ve been really turned on by the thought of her being with other guys. I’ve always asked her for details about her past sexual experiences—how many guys she’s been with, what she’s done with them, and it really gets me going.

There was even a time when we broke up for about a month, and during that time, she hooked up with a guy a few times. I asked her to tell me all about it, and I remember feeling extremely turned on by the idea of her with him. Even now, when we’re having sex, I often fantasize about her being with someone else, and it excites me a lot.

Lately, I’ve been fantasizing about actually seeing her with another guy while we’re together. I love her, and we have a strong relationship, but this fantasy is something that keeps coming back. Is this normal? Should I talk to her about it and maybe even bring it up as an idea? I’m unsure of how to handle this and would appreciate any advice.

Girls, how would you react?