Can women smell desperation in a mid 20s man who is a virgin? When I meet women I like I try to be distant and talk more like an office environment way while with men I can be more friendly, this is because if I am too friendly with women they might think I am trying too hard to get laid. When I met a new person who is a man I think hey we might be good friends, but when I meet women I think that this same enthusiasm makes me look desperate so I might come off more distant. How does it diminish my chances (turns women off instantly) to find a female partner in life if I soften up to women after I known them from months and at first I seem cold.