Hi, so i (F43) started to date again and experienced for the first time 44/46yo men.

5/5 had ED. Either complicated to get/keep a boner or finished very fast and all of them saying "im exhausted" to avoid having sex. Kiss, hug but that's it...

Last time I was on the dating market, was 7 years ago so was used to 30/35yo guys with 2 rounds during the evening, waking up in the middle of the night and extra morning session...

So, I'm wondering if 1/ i was just lucky previously 2/ it's normal that as from the 40s the performance drastically drops or 3/ it's me? I'm in good physical shape and attractive but indeed i put myself under question mark (sorry English not my first language). I send all clear signs that i want sex. Last night, for example we had diner at his place, drank some wine, slept in the same bed, spooned, woke up but nothing happened 😭

I'm lost (and ego hurt and frustrated)... Any tip / advice / experience sharing here?

Thank youuuuu 😊🙏