How is love supposed to feel? I mean, what does it even mean? I don’t think I feel love towards anybody. Maybe I trust someone more than others, but love—I don’t experience it. Whenever I see a couple, I often wonder what it means to love someone. For me, when girls show interest, it often feels like they’re just confirming that I am capable of attracting attention. It’s as if, in some tribal sense, I am part of the group of successful and strong individuals—proving my capability.I know this sounds fucking weird, but sorry yes.

As far as I can remember, I have never truly felt love for anyone. I don’t feel love towards my parents; instead, I feel a sense of obligation or pity when I see them weak or vulnerable. That’s when I care about them the most, but it doesn’t feel like love. Every girl I want to date seems to represent ideas—freedom, the idea of being part of something everyone does, caring for someone like you would for like a child, and having a constant person who validates that yes I do have social skills. But I don’t actually feel anything for the girl herself. Whenever I get to know a girl, when she become more than idea, I often find that I don’t like her anymore. People often seem like abstract ideas to me, and they excite me because they represent the possibility of feeling something I’ve never experienced.

And the relationships I’ve observed around me don’t match what I’m looking answers for. The girl or boy remains the same after entering a relationship. Love does nothing, and you remain the same person. What exactly does love feel like? I’ve experienced anxiety or excitement when pursuing someone—the thrill of the chase—but even then, it’s more about the possibility of it happening or not - the validation. I have never felt the connection all the people on reddit seem to have with their partner or friend or family member, and it not because i ma not vulnerable or lack social skills. They remain vague, and I end up projecting my own ideas onto them, only to be disappointed when I get to know them.

To set the record straight, I don’t enjoy chasing girls. In real life, I don’t find many girls I have asked sexually attractive,I found them cute but not sexually hot. I asked them because they’re merely projections of my own ideas. What does love actually feel like? Are you supposed to feel something else?

It seems like the idea is to have someone to care for, not necessarily someone to love. I don’t understand what it feels like to truly love someone.I feel everyone jump on gun, say everything to sound smart or say that to "discord", but most people do not know the love. Also, I know that love shown in media is just a story, but here on reddit or whole internet, reading people experience make me ask this. Sometimes I feel like most people my age are not looking for partner, they also looking for answers like me.