Hey guys,

I’ve been having some performance issues in the bedroom, and came across this page in my endless search for possible answers. I’m impressed with the effort I see on this page every day and wanted to throw out my personal shout out. But I also wanted to say something. The only issue I have with this page is the amount of power you all give this problem. Sex is only one part of our lives, and yes, when things are going wrong it can feel like the end of the world. But it’s not. It never will be. Worst comes to worst and you never have an erection again, guess what? Doesn’t mean you’re dead!

I believe porn is what it is, and absolutely can become dangerous when used to extremes, just like anything else. But the vanilla/hardcore, even some of the kinky stuff can be useful. My girlfriend has climbed on top of me more times in the month since we watched a few cowgirl videos than she ever did before, only because she genuinely had no idea what to do, how to move, where to hold on to. Porn isn’t entirely dangerous. Masturbation isn’t entirely dangerous.

I guess where I’m going with this, is don’t let everything you read here whip you up into a frenzy thinking you’ll never be happy unless you can succeed at NoFap, because succeeding at NoFap doesn’t mean you’ll be happy. You’re the only one who can control your own mental state. You want to be happy? Be happy.

And yes, if you’re masturbating 5 times a day, maybe slow it down a bit, ok Big Chief? If you masturbate with a grip like a vice, maybe loosen it up there Scooter! But for the love of God, don’t let anyone tell you what it takes to be happy. Nobody can decide that but you.