Hi Nofappers,

I know this has nothing to with NoFap directly. But I would like to share something that has had such huge impact to my own life and played a big part in improving myself as person.

I used to be a perfectionist, but I realised that chasing perfectionism tends to leads to disappointment.

It is something that I have noticed when I went about my work. When I used to be a perfectionist, and I was approaching an assignment or project. I kept on thinking about the outcome, the perfect outcome to be precise.

I have realised that focusing too much on the desired (perfect) outcome actually led to procrastination. I wasn't focused on my assignment. I scared by it. I didn't want to fail.

It is same when it comes to approaching women. We are scared by rejection - that fear of being rejected is down to perfectionism. I know I have been there.

So I made a decision to simply embrace my imperfections and let go of the outcome. The result, I became more productive. I focused on the assignment itself regardless of the outcome.

I managed to get it the assignment/project done. And I manage to interact with more women too.

I been on this subreddit for quite some time. I noticed there are quite a lot guys out who are ashamed of who they are. Yes I can understand porn and masturbation has made our lives a living hell. But we have to accept and take full responsibility of our actions. We are not perfect.

We should embrace our imperfections and let go out of the outcome. And we should start taking action to make our lives better. It is all about trying and never giving up.

This is just a food for thought. I actually wrote a blog post which goes into more detail. You can check it out if you like:

http://www.mistry-writer.com/why-you-shouldnt-strive-for-perfectionism/

But seriously, stop chasing perfectionism. My experience has shown that it doesn't get you anywhere.

A really good book that I read on the subject is called "How to be an imperfections" by Stephen Guise

Thanks for reading :)