I am a woman living with a porn addict. TLDR. Can porn without fapping impact our relationships if now we have great sex but started to watch porn regularly. He previously had sex addiction with impact on relationships.

We are both in our 30s. Have been living together for 2 years. Our relationships are amazing, sex has been great. But it started to change…

When we started to date 3 years ago he confessed that about a month before we met he stopped watching porn and that it had been his addiction for many years before and that he learnt that in his previous relationships it was bad and impacted his sex life and relationships. He said he could spend 2-3 hours watching porn daily and would jerk off 1-3 times a day, which obviously impacted his sex with a partner. I admired his courage to tell me and his ability to break the addiction.

All was great for about 18 months. About a year ago I noticed that he started to use Reddit often, which he uses mostly for porn about the same time he started to distant himself emotionally. Sex was still great. But now he shared his threesome fantasies.

It has been about 10 months since he is back to watching porn daily. Our sex is still great, but he voiced his desire for a threesome (I have no interest in it) and the fact that at this point it is not worth losing me, but he cannot guarantee that in the future it will be strong enough that it may be more important than our relationship.

Knowing that sex is still great, what could be impact of watching porn without jerking off? Do you fantasies become less if you watch less content depicting them? Any other advice?