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No fap: The untold reality
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Long ago I was lost in fap and screen addiction as a earlier teenager with adhd and ocd, my family problems hit me hard and I had a very complicated economic situation, a very dysfunctional family, etc., I had goals and life plans for the future, at least always trying to learn and auto educate myself from the internet/books as I always do as an autodidact, kind of focused on design and programming, but my environment wasn't healthy enough to keep me up, I did not leave home from days/weeks, 0 social interaction besides internet social media, 0 physical activities, 0 energy, that probably messed up my development as a teen, I had some school friends that I'm still with, but they didn't hang out at all, even my home was freaking far from any urban space, these were dark times.

One day my father asked me if I wanted to move out, and live with my "other" family, after that, everything changed, step by step, i started hanging out a little more with friends, high school again, part of my problems were out, but there still was a lack of motivation and energy, i always loved sexuality, i even discovered fap at 5-6 yo, and watched porn since 10, somedays it was a problem, some others dont, i didn't ejaculate's so i would keep going, but the problem here is not porn, not even masturbation, after all that time i realized that these are just sub products, just a symptom that something is really wrong about your life, and that its a way of escapism, you dont have any propose more than just falling in a constant easy dopamine addiction that it could be porn, or videogames, or YouTube, I was even way more addicted to games than porn, it becomes a cycle, you may have it easier if you have friends/family that can help you, others maybe just the contrary, living with people that be always throwing shit, or just dont care at all, it is a cycle, and the only way to escape is TRYING DIFFERENT THINGS, radical solutions, go out, just do it even if you suffer or feel uncomfortable at first.

For me it was gym/calisthenics, working out, talking to people, getting enough sunlight, better sleep, goals, (healthier lifestyle) always trying to find my weakness, learning and fighting to overcome them, i improved massively, you need a purpose, doesn't matter how stupid it is, if it is being more attractive, getting a car, your dream house, becoming the best at something, and reward yourself to get motivated, you have to live for it, something that fits you.

You may be able to find out what it is by exploring and getting inspired, try to get help from professionals for example, obviously not everyone would find a solution, but at least it would easily improve your life, its not over until you are dead, just step by step, people in internet is always trying to over simplify things so these lazy folks could understand, they create a cult centered in something and make a shitty business from it.

No fap isn't going to solve all the problems that I bring here, in fact, it may make things more difficult, find whats bad about your life, fap isn't your real problem, unless you are a complete porn addict, masturbating 3 times, and without thinking anymore but porn, even if you are in that situation, dont just stop and pretend you are going to make it from nowhere, start reducing your faps per day, until you can live with that, replace it with other healthy activities, and a note for everyone, porn and masturbation is not bad, is absolutely common and a lot of people do it while having a high good functional life, because sexuality is something important, and you cant suppress that, I tried no fap for 3-4 months straight and it was a hellish experience, you cant stop thinking about it, you are more dependent to it than before, and where sex comes it wouldn't make you better, just slow down that, like everything in life, just moderate it.

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