Hello everyone, I am here to share our first time that we dipped our toes in the swinger lifesylte.

We are 31M/ 32F with athletic and slender build respectively. We had a pretty vanilla lifestyle for the length of the time we dated and first 3 years of our marriage. Then we were spending a late summer afternoon with some friends that changed everything. We had known them through social gatherings and parties we attended and hosted at our house. As always, we gravitated towards people we liked to spend time with.

We normally did not talk about our sex life in front of others or in public. On this evening, we'll call them Kat and Cal, Steve and Sara, were talking about how they progressed into finding their way to deeper connection as couples. Amber and I were mutually intrigued and interested in the conversation. Sara talked about how they "found a deeper connection through shared experiences" and Steve mentioned how he "loved what his wife was able to do for him that she couldn't before." We were both intrigued to say the least, but I could sense some hesitation with Amber (My wife) as I think she already knew what they were talking about. Maybe from her books that she read. She contantly had her head in a kindle or paper copy book burning through books all the time. I never paid much attention to what she was reading.

I kept asking asking questions about what they were talking about. Was it a book, a program, a counseling session they went to that opened this experience to them? It got real quiet for a minute while the cicadas chattered along in the deafening silence. It wasn't until I caught all four of them look at their spouses with a quick grin that I realized what they were talking about.

I looked over at Amber and she had a look of wonder still that we could do what they were talking about. I think in the moment it was an opening for a fantasy of hers, but I couldn't be sure in the moment. Steve was the first to talk, "It is something you both have to agree on and communicate through how it will make you closer before you try." I think Amber was still thinking it was Hot yoga or a therapy session until Sara spoke very plainly.

"We are part of a lifestyle where we indulge each other fantasies in an agreed upon set of rules. This includes what we are comfortable doing and what is off limits." Bingo. Amber's face was in shock as she slowly turned to me in her adirondak chair. The other couples held conservative smiles while my wife and I let the realization of what our friends were doing in their spare time unbeknowst to us. Keep in mind they all lived in the same neigborhood as us, and our kids played together, so there a couple layers of social interactions we were unpacking in that moment.

Her look of shock slipped into a look of intrigue and wonderment. She quickly fired off questions in a hushed tone about jealosy, consent and feelings. Kat took lead on those questions, "Its about communication and trust." She continued, "Ultimately its about the experience with our significant other. It is not a hall pass to sleep around, but an adventure into our sexuality that we want to share."

Amber continued with questions that were very pointed towards the girls experiences and how they naviagted the potential problems in her mind. I asked Steve and Cal if they wanted to join me to get more drinks for the girls. They obliged and we left Sara, Kat and Amber on the deck to speak freely about the world my wife was discovering.

To be continued...(Amber walked in on me writing this(