Update Well its been a few weeks since shes agreed on divorce and I think the reality of the situation is hitting her. I agreed to help her get set up (for the benefit of our son) I've sent her links to places to rent and cheap furniture, now she's realizing that it's a lot harder out there now then 15 years ago. She hates the fact that I took her out of a basement sweet and into a nice home and now she'll probably have to go back to the basement. She's been trying lots of tactics to back pedal, she even suggested counseling again lol. She hated it in the first place and our former counselor now just mine alone said she would never welcome her back after all the lies she told. I know the divorce will cost me but it is fun watch her suffer now instead of me. I just remember the years of abuse and lies and know she created her own mess and for the first time in her life she has to deal with it on her own.

Original post Well my narc wife and I are separating after Christmas. We agreed to wait till after Christmas so it doesn't ruin the holiday for our son. But last night I finally got her to admit that she fell in love with what I could give her and not actually me. Still won't admit to the affair even with evidence but I take the one win for now. I'm not totally shocked by this as my therapist and I figured after her two previous abusive relationships she latched on to me cause I was safe and could provide what she wanted.

I'm happy ill be free of the lies, mind games, and mental abuse. But I'm so angry and sad that 15 years with the exception of my son are an absolute waste. This is going to take some major time to heal from.