I just don’t know what to do at times. I was snapped at for no reason out of the blue over something petty this morning which took me by total surprise. I explained I hadn’t finished that chore (changing guest duvet) because I was in the middle of one (cleaning kitchen and doing the dishes before guests arrive) and when that’s finished I’ll be doing it. I suggested she could have done it as she was in that room anyway collecting cushions.

So It just led to a total 20 min slam of me being lazy, there’s nothing she does is wrong, why should I do your chores for you etc. I just didn’t know what to say, just feel so sad inside and upset.

She’s now left to go out drinking for the afternoon, whilst I’m home to finish the chores, go shopping, and then carry on with the garden renovation before guests arrive. No doubt when they arrive later it’ll be all smiles from her as if nothing happened. It just makes you constantly think “is it me?” Or “could I have done that better?”. It’s been going on for a while now, every time a try to talk to her about it, I get everything thrown back at me as to what I’m doing wrong etc. for those struggling with Narc partners I’m so sorry and it’s not you.