My wife is my narc... I've been concerned for a couple of years, but this year was the worst. I got sick, we got a shared girlfriend, and she used a fake suicide threat - threat, there was absolutely no attempt, just a bunch of show - to try to force me to let her abuse me. I stood up to her. She tried, successfully for 3 weeks, to make me feel like I was a monster for being upset at her behavior during her "mental health crisis", but after speaking with a mental health professional I am reaffirmed that I am perfectly legitimate to be angry that she got wasted and threw my things on the floor because I was "cold" to her.

I was cold to her. For the last year she has belittled me. She told me she was no longer sexually attracted to me. She refused to offer me any support even though I was devastatingly ill for nearly a week and a half, on top of my already shitty health since my thyroid stopped working...

She told me our marriage was over. Now she's "not flirting" with this woman who is overtly making sexual advances - I've read their convos it's all pretty explicit. She got rid of all my friends on Facebook and the only new "friends" she has are people she wants to have sex with, basically. And she never had any of her own friends before because she would always be sexual to them and then she'd get hired and ditch them.

I haven't had any serious physical contact in at least 6 months, and most of that was painful and uncomfortable because my wife refused to respect any of my physical boundaries to the point where I feel like I haven't had an honest to god snuggle in over a year at this point

I'm dying. I have to get the divorce paperwork and it makes me sick. She broke up with me but it making me choose to leave.

I'm past the denial phase. Struggling a touch with anger, a lot with sadness and depression, doing my best to move into acceptance. It's over. She can never actually love me, she never will actually love me, and all her promises about our future are just empty pipe dreams she's throwing around because, for some unknown reason, she thinks I want to talk about moving across the country with her where I have no friends, no support, no job - like does she think I'm a fucking moron??

I'm kind... I'm sweet... I clean and cook and I've dedicated the last 6 years of my life, tears, you name it, to helping my step kids get away from their other abusive parent so they can have good lives.

She made me a chai latte this morning. I basically told her I just wish I was dead so she's feeling a little bit like she should show some empathy. Wasn't really the point... The bizarre irony here being that her act of empathy just makes me feel even sicker.

She's a poster child for narcissistic personality disorder and I fucking married her... The depression is killing my motivation, I've basically gone NC with my wife. We don't text, we don't talk much, we don't do anything together now really.

I hate her a little for doing this to me. For pretending she doesn't know what she wants when she clearly does. The lies and guilt trips and gaslighting and belittling...

Can I just wake up with a brand new wife?? Please?? I don't want to go through this...