I left 2 weeks ago; absolutely blindsided him. After about 4 days, he was able to speak calmly and rationally with me. He loves me. He is going to change. His only motivation is me.

I've given only small, frivolous reasons for getting out. No confrontation, no pronouncements. He says he doesn't understand. I know he sees through my excuses and is pressing for more. Do I give him more? Do I lay it all out now, before we've started working on an agreement? Is there anything I can say to quiet his hounding me?

He wants to see a couples therapist, to work on our relationship. I want to see a counsellor or mediator, to work out how he can regain trust in me (eye roll) and improve our communication. I'm going into it as co-parents and financial partners. He's going in to win me back. Is it possible for this to work? Can we stay friendly and work well together?

Or an I just being my naive, optimistic self?