So new news from what I’ve asked on here before these past weeks:

Short summary out of a big deal:

Straight curious guy here, tried a hookup site for the first time four years ago. Guy I saw and met with those four years turned out to be a covert malignant narc, just found out recently. Told me he was straight discreet, only liked bjs, I was his only meetup, and he secluded me away at his house for night meetups. Turns out all four years he he was sleeping with new guys every single day at lunch and in the evening, and not just getting blown, but having unprotected sex topping strangers all over different towns while cruising every spot imaginable. He emotionally and mentally abused me the whole time….while physically (through kinks and rough sex) abused all his other meetups (even assaulting one against his will), which were mostly gay men, but I guess he loves submissive gay bottoms from what I’ve heard. I talked to over sixty guys he’s met with to compare stories, and talked to other regulars too. Nobody knew all this guy has done.

June 17 - last time we met up

(Found out everything by asking around on the site, some really dark stuff)

July 11 - I go to his place for the first time uninvited to talk to him kindly, he ends up yelling at me through a screen door the whole time, tells me to get the f out, and at the end threatened my life by saying he’d call the police or worse if I ever showed up again. All I asked was if he was clean and I told him I know he sleeps around all the time (all that I was allowed to say really).

The past couple of days, I’ve been warning guys on the site about how dangerous this guy is, and most thanked me and were glad I told them. And I just found out a lot of guys and their friends have been talking about it and spreading the word because of me, on and off the site in their circles, which really shocked me….and I’m hearing a lot of guys have gotten a bad/creepy vibe from my narc when he chats or sees them. If they had met with him before, they said they won’t ever meet again.

• My concern and what makes me uneasy -

My narc when I first joined the site use to have a full profile, and then over the years took off the profile pic and stats, and went to blank anonymous, so he could meet guys without me ever knowing, I’m guessing, which he did, and it worked. But after I stood up to him on July 11, he went quiet and was only seen on the site twice since then I guess….until a few days ago, when someone I know on the site told me my narc now has a full profile again, with stats and a picture and what he’s looking for, like he did when he first joined the site. And the same person told me, who lives by a cruising forest preserve my narc apparently goes to, said my narc parked in his car there two days in a row for 5 hours each day, waiting to hook up with someone which never happened, since I guess he drove away and went to an adult bookstore to find someone. The person I talked to thinks my narc is getting desperate on the hookup site because he’s losing supply from word getting out about him. I also never saw his profile on, and I was on during that time, which means he blocked me.

I know malignant covert narcs are very dangerous, and I want to know what’s going on? If anyone can help me, please do. Since I’m a little freaked out.

Is my MCN truly done with me and is blocking me to never see me again so I’m good/off the hook? (Since he’s trying to get new supply)

Is my MCN trying to punish me by blocking me, though I would never know or care if he was back on the site if I couldn’t see him since he blocked me, and only know since someone told me?

Does my MCN know I’ve told other people about him and that word is traveling out about him, making meetups harder?

I just want to know what he’s doing and thinking. I don’t want him to come for me if he does. Why make a full profile again…and on top of that block me? I would have left him alone either way.

Please help my unease, I’ve only dealt with covert narcs who have left me….I’ve never dealt with a malignant covert narc before, and on top of that with sex involved. I’ve also never stood up for myself against one until now too.