I’m having the worse time right now. My ex started seeing someone around the time me and him were still off and on. One weekend I was with him and the very next my son who was 5 at the time was telling me all about his dads new friend and her kids.

This girl moved him in (he’d finally gotten his own place two months prior) and he’s basically turned family man over night.

I was more heartbroken at the fact that he played into my emotions until I finally asked him upfront and then acted like I was insane for being upset.

Took me a long time to mentally recover from that last blow. Since he’s been with her he’s been driving her car, she got a bed for my son at her place and he moved in a month after me finding out.

I’ve been mature about the situation because after reflecting, he literally did the same thing with me all while I was thinking his first baby mom was crazy and that I’d won some prize. Oh how I was wrong. And now he’s moved on to this women and her kids and I can’t help but to feel like my son is caught up in some kind of circus.

On the outside you would think he’s a changed person and then after sitting back I realize he’s literally doing everything I’d begged him to do with us. Church, trips(that she pays for) a pet ect. And of course he makes sure to let me know of every life change.

Same things I’ve cried about were the same things his first baby mom was trying to warn me about.

It’ll be a year in July since they’ve been dating and the quality of care that my son receives from him has really gone down.

He either comes home dirty or hurt, or suffering hives because of the puppy they got that my son is allergic to and he won’t give him medicine unless I send it.

We had an agreement that he wasn’t to be left alone with the girlfriend because her oldest picks with my son and he comes home upset about it.

My son just told me his dad left him last weekend and that he was being watched by the girlfriend. I don’t have anything against this women because I’ve already been in her shoes but at the same token if her kid is messing with mine how am I supposed to feel with him being left solely in her care?

How do you coparent with someone and come to an agreement about a situation just for them to blatantly disregard it? I’m trying my best to navigate the situation but it gets draining af.!