Been no contact for at least a couple of months but he contacted me by email (he's blocked on just about everything else) last week to ask if he could collect some of his things. He can't have all of it yet cos he's only renting a room so doesn't have space but needed some clothes etc. Fine, we arranged a date & time & I checked one of my friends was free so that I had someone else at the house with me.

He turned up, I let him into the garage where I've put most of his stuff. He needed help finding a few things cos obviously I was the one who packed it all up so that was fine, luckily I have a fairly good memory for stuff like that so could find things easily. He tried to make conversation like asking how I am & saying how weird it was to see me after so long. I didn't respond, just spoke about his stuff & pointed out that fairly soon he will need to collect the rest of it, he confirmed he's looking into getting a storage locker or something. I made it fairly clear there wasn't going to be any further conversation (my friend glaring from behind me may have helped 🤣) & he left.

I think I was most worried about how I'd feel & that if he tried to make conversation (which as I predicted felt was his attempt at a new round of hoovering) I'd be somehow tempted or taken in again. In the event I felt almost nothing, apart from annoyance that he left all the neatly stacked piles of boxes etc in a complete mess when he left 🙈 it's great cos I feel a lot stronger & a lot less worried about if I do bump into him sometime now. Just wanted to share I guess as I'd been so worried about it beforehand!!