I'm fairly new to this journey, broke up with my nex husband around February and he didn't move out until June but since then been no contact. I keep getting the 'plenty more fish' (or insert other overused analogy) from all sorts of people when they find out I'm separated and I'm so over the whole thing.

Right now I don't think I will ever be able to trust my own judgement enough to allow anyone else in or trust someone enough. Bearing in mind that my husband swept me off my feet when we met - I now understand about lovebombing but at the time it felt like the amazing fairy-tale love I didn't think really existed or that at least wasn't meant for me. I also always considered myself a good judge if character. I was so ridiculously wrong on both counts I don't know how I will ever find away to make myself vulnerable like that again so I think I just won't, I'll stay single and that's fine - I've never been afraid of being alone, love my own company, was raised by a single mother who has been on her own now for nearly 40 years and has a great life... But people keep trying to persuade me I shouldn't 'give up' like that.

So I'm wondering how long it took others to get past this crushing fear and the feeling that being alone forever is better than ever risking anything ever again?? How do you even go about rebuilding that trust in yourself and your judgement when it's been shattered so thoroughly?