Separated since 9/21. Trial in Jan

Since Oct 2021(14 months), the children have been attending .... They are licensed, safe, and “D” (preschooler) loves it there. They are in the busing zone of "A” & “G” elementary age. A and G are only there briefly, before and after school.

Daycare hours are 530am to 6pm, this is significant because they are open early enough to accommodate Husband’s early work hours. I receive childcare assistance while I am in school. (almost done) Husband has been ordered to pay $2xx/month to reimburse county assistance. County pays $3200/mo. for our 3 children. He's never paid childsupport, (6 months behind).

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The other significance of having this childcare is that it provides a 3rd party exchange of parenting time, which is better for the kids.

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It’s a perfect childcare arrangement. He has to do nothing, just take them.

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Currently….

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1) He refuses to pay the bill or child support. I do 100% of find and paying for daycare and then he’ll stick me with the bill. I’ll have to pay 100% of daycare regardless of the child support order, because I need to work. I have 3 kids to support.

2) He’s trying to prove that he doesn’t need childcare=he shouldn’t have to pay for it. He did the same thing in his 1st marriage. 1st wife had separate childcare in their custody order, because he wouldn’t pay half the bill. His previous kids were kicked out of daycare for non-payment.

Then, when he realizes he actually does need childcare, he’ll hire a crack head for $20/day. Seen it. Her name was …. 2012

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2)He refuses to take them. I paid for an entire summer of camp for E and G(elementary age), and Husband wouldn’t take them. Less than a 2-mile drive from his house to summer camp. He would check them out at random times, even on my time. Now the kids have bad anxiety about exchange days. They don’t know what to expect. I begged him to either take them or let me know when he would take them, so that I could get a refund.

Refusing to take "A" to daycare put me at risk of losing childcare assistance. for too many absences. He forced me to commit welfare fraud.

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He wants 50/50 custody, so he won’t have to pay child support. (In his mind. This is why he doesn’t pay now) And then he’ll just refuse to pay for half of childcare, medical, or anything else for the kids. Because he doesn’t need childcare, and he doesn’t need them to go to the doctor.

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Overnight, I became 100% responsible for everything, housing, childcare, healthcare and everything the kids need. It’s all on me. I should have full custody.