Long story short: XH initiated the divorce after 18 years of marriage and two kids. We have been divorced about 4 years, he has remarried. We have 50/50 custody of our two teen kids (alternating weeks), but since August of last year our son has lived with me full time. XH thought it would be “more stable” but I believe his new wife couldn’t handle his issues (teenager, ADD, ASD). For the most part things are okay, but we have had some issues.

Things have really ramped up with COVID19 (of course). XH and I talked and decided going between houses would be more dangerous for our daughter. He agreed she should stay at my home for the time being. He and new wife can both work from home. My job allowed me a week off, with the possibility of more as needed. I’m a private nanny any my bosses are both essential workers (mental health). They are thankfully able to work from home and have been staying home as much as possible. Our plan is to have me work for them until a mutually agreed upon time or if our state bans all movement. We have also agreed to respectively take temps of the people in our homes and notify if there are symptoms present. I feel I am just as much a threat to them as they are to me.

Anyway, XH is now pressuring me to stay home. He has tried to guilt me, threaten me, but I’m doing my best to grey rock him. Last night his new wife looked up my boss on Facebook and messaged her it was “urgent”. When my boss called her (thinking there was a medical emergency with me), new wife demanded to know details of my employment, what measures we had in place (info I had already shared), and tried to pressure my boss into either firing me or giving me extended time off.

I am livid. I have never shared my employer’s names with XH or NW. I would never dream of calling their places of employment to demand personal info. I’m embarrassed that my boss had to deal with that. It makes me look unprofessional. I have not confronted XH or NW yet. I am calling my lawyer on my break today to discuss if I should take action. In my mind, this is harassment. If anyone has advice, I would appreciate it. Thank you for listening.