MB here. Hope it’s ok to post? If not, feel free to remove.

Hired a new nanny a month ago. She’s wonderful, punctual, communicative, really communicates well with our 6 week old, comes up with creative things for them to do for the few minutes he’s awake, always leaves house as neat as she found it. Sometimes does dishes, but she has latex allergy and can’t use the gloves that guard against really hot water. My wife and I really like her.

But, my wife says there have been some serious problems, and she thinks we should fire her, but I am not sure. Every time we talk with her about these things, she improves for a while. So, she’s capable. But, what if she has a cognitive impairment? I don’t want to be the MB that fires the brain damaged nanny.

Anyway, sorry, here are some of the things she does wrong:

• wipes from back to front
• tried taking rectal temp by sticking it in his penis. Thankfully, caught that one quick. Taught her how to do rectal temp. But then, she put it back in the case without washing it. And later, she took her own temp. I mean, if she’s comfortable with the germs, right? -Doesn’t ALWAYS support preemie’s neck, but she’s getting better at it.
• She reads him books about becoming an older sibling.
• She always puts the diaper on backwards. Tried to teach her but she just can’t seem to get it. Hasn’t been a HUGE deal. A couple of blowouts that might’ve been prevented, but not many.
• She pinches his cute cheeks while he’s drinking the bottle.
• When she swaddles him, she covers his whole face. We think he’s breathing OK - it’s a light wrap/blanket, but she doesn’t know how to stop the wrap lower.

So, I think that’s it. I probably should add that she’s a single mom who took in her brothers after their parents abandoned them as teens. So, money is tight for her. Just trying to figure out what’s right. Thanks for your advice!