Been through quite a few NFS and now that I'm learning to advocate for myself and be a bit more straight forward with what I'm looking for. But I've just had the worst luck thus far. First nf I worked for was a sahm who was working on a book. Expected me to care for a 8 month old plus cook, clean, laundry, dishes, and juicing a ridiculous amount of celery juice every day. (So much I would go home and shower and still smell like celery) plus also cared for their 5yr old son who had some pretty bad behavioral issues. The mom was bonkers and was constantly freaking out that the baby wasn't eating enough (even though the doctor said he was fine) and would have me feed the baby in his sleep since he didn't want to eat. Didn't believe in any form of discipline or parenting. Just let the 5 yr old hit her and kick her with zero guidance or repercussions. She would come downstairs while I was doing dishes pick up the baby (who was sitting in the highchair next to me playing) and hand him to me. And say I needed to show him more attention. But then would also scold me because I wasn't getting enough housework done and would say "If I can do it you can do it". She also had 3 different child care workers me Tuesday through Saturday, another girl for Sunday Monday, and someone to come at night after I left. It was such a bad experience. All for $14 an hour which I had to negotiate for since she wanted to pay me $12. Then I found another family interviewed in February and was supposed to start in March after they gave their nanny 1 month notice. Then March comes and they say the nanny hasn't found a job yet and are going to give her more time. This continues until July when they tell me they are going on vacation and want me to come in for a part time trail when they got back. I ended up just giving up and finding another job. This family also texted me once and then less than five minutes later messaged me on care.com app asking if I had changed my phone number because she texted me and I didn't answer yet 🙃. Then interviewed with a few families who had insane expectations and wanted to pay practically nothing. Then found another family where mom was sahm and dad was a buisness owner who was in and out. They had absolutely zero boundaries, didn't pay well, and expected me to constantly be doing activities with the 2 yr old when we were constantly going out places with her or her friends or to the store etc. How am I supposed to plan any kind of activity when I'm not in control of your ever changing schedule. Then when I would try to plan activities she would intervene and shoot down my ideas. Fast foward and they want me to travel out of the country with them and stay up at night caring for their infant and want to compensate me less than I usually make in a week because I would have free time when she told me was wants me to act like they are my children and are 100% my responsibility for the week. Then accuses me of exploitation when I tell them that what they offered wasn't enough for what they needed me to do. Then they threaten me with legal action and call me stupid. Then another family. Who loved me said I was soo great and how much the kids loved me and everything else who then let me go with zero notice because they found a free day care program. Now I'm looking for jobs and have met the most ridiculous people. 🙄 people who want you to work 45 hours a week for $400. Or people who don't even answer you back. Or people who message you on Christmas eve and then you respond to them after Christmas weekend and they say "too late we already hired someon" !?!?! How does that even make sense. I'm sooo tired of this. And mind you none of these families have ever paid me well or given me paid sick days, paid vacation, paid holidays, bonuses nothing. The one family went away on at least 4 weeks of vacation when I was working for them and didn't pay me for a single day of it. I was broke and only working for them part time and when I said I was going to get a second part time job because it wasn't enough hours they gave me an attitude and were like oh well you'll still be available for when we need you right because we said we need you to be flexible and there are certain days we'll need. When they were all over the place with my schedule and I constantly accommodated them. I've now begun having an employment contract that includes paid sick days paid vacation paid holidays increase for overnight services. Etc. But still can not find a job. I'm hoping something happens soon. 🙏