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I bring my NK (2.5F) to a Little Gym class on Wednesday mornings. It's pretty crowded and during free play, there are a few spots in the room that are everyone's favorites. 2F is a natural introvert, as are her sisters, and isn't the type to bull her way in, climb on another kid, or squeeze into small spaces with someone she doesn't know. She moves a little more slowly and cautiously than other kids, which means she frequently is the last to get there for equipment, gets pushed out of the way, or winds up at the back of the line.
Several times today, a child a bit younger than her (probably around 2 or a few months shy) rushed ahead of her and got on the equipment 2F was headed towards. Her grown up was right with her. OK, fine, thats not a big deal, it's chaotic in there and you cause a tantrum if you stop a toddler in their tracks. But both times, and particularly the last time, mom allowed her kid to monopolize the equipment for a long time, completely ignoring other children who were waiting. There were three other children waiting to use the swinging rings and it wasn't until the third kid came over that she finally prompted her kid to give it up. The last time, it was just 2F and I waiting for a turn in a big foam archway. Her kid pushed ahead of us and then it was like we weren't even there. I told 2F nice job waiting for her turn, and made other comments to indicate we were waiting. It is very "not done" to speak directly to another parent or their child, so I didn't feel like that was an option.
I know it's trending right now not to teach children to share with others and that they are "done when they are done." When that is your own personal stuff that belongs to you, that's fine. But when it is something that belongs to the community, and in this case that we are all paying to use, I just find this behavior piggish. Speaking as an American, I have a lot of problems with the hyperfocus we have on individuality and "MY RIGHTS!!!!" and I just see this philosophy as more of the same. I worked with children with special needs for ten years before I became a nanny and it is disheartening to see the culture move even further away from an attitude of making space for others, and teaching that yes, sometimes it is OK, necessary, and right to give up some of "MUH RIGHTS" for the sake of others.
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