So Girlie (19m) still isn't talking. They've gotten a specialist involved and we'll start speech therapy by the end of August - not sure exactly when yet because everyone is about to go on vacation.

One thing MB and I talked about was no pacifier except for naps and bedtime.

MB has been out of town this week which means I've been dealing with grandma.

Grandma is a little older, so she stayed with Girlie this morning while I took the dog on a quick walk. When I got there, I took her pacifier out, and grabbed the dog. She started crying when I left and when I came back she had the pacifier back in. The same thing happened yesterday as well.

I need to tell MB because we are really working on speech and think the pacifier is a huge limiting factor but I don't know how to politely say "hey your mom is totally ignoring what you decided we need to do for Girlie." She does this with other things - I.e. She told me that while they're out of town she's going to reorganize and go through all of Girlies toys without permission - so she clearly doesn't have a problem ignoring boundaries, but I don't know how to have that conversation in a professional way.

I was thinking of waiting for the speech therapist and bringing it up with the therapist and MB present, not grandma specifically just reiterating the use of the pacifier, since we will both be there for the first therapy, but I don't know if that's the best way to go about it.