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I feel like this is something that I’ve never seen discussed, so I want to start a discussion about it. I would like to hear from other plus sized nanny’s about their experience. Being a nanny is political and part of that experience stems from what you look like, whether you see it or not. Have other fat/plus size nanny’s noticed a difference in the way the family treats you based on your size? Furthermore, how can we shut down fatphobic comments from kids? Of course kids don’t know what fatphobia is, but it’s so so engrained in our society that we must shut down comments as we hear it. Just as we would teach our kids to respect and love people of different races/ethnicities, we need to do the same for people in bigger bodies. Curious if anyone has insight or stories to share.
Hi! Not a bigger nanny but chiming in with advice on body talk. I’m in eating disorder recovery so body talk is a huge boundary for me- I always tell my NKs that we never comment on people’s bodies. It’s okay to ask questions in private, but never commenting.
I don’t have great teeth. Working with rich people really makes that obvious. Once 7M told me my teeth are yellow so I should brush them and that was the breakthrough for him on body talk- we discussed my hurt feelings, why my teeth are stained, and why it was rude to mention it. He does a good job reminding his little brother now that we don’t comment on bodies.
How do you dress currently? I’m a big advocate of dressing for your own joy when you can. I don’t have the option to dress exactly how I want at work because I prefer dressing up (such a stupid thing to complain about but true, I am thankful for sweatpants though). I just got sick of hand-washing paint off denim and wool 😂😅
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This is insane to me!!! I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that. As an attractive nanny this has been a fear of mine but thankfully never reality. I’ve had some weird interviews but otherwise been fortunate to work for respectful DBs. Though to be fair I’m least attractive at work- no makeup, sweatpants, messy ponytail, and some combo of snot, glue and applesauce on my clothes 😂