I'm so annoyed, but it's not like I can say stop having parental instincts.

Their 15 month old has been fussy lately, big feelings and experiencing speciation anxiety. On top of just not sleeping, and refusing to eat because they're getting picky. I can handle this, just waiting it out, enforcing routine. But it gets messed up, when he starts to whine- no tears just a fake pout- and they come downstairs from their wfh office to "talk" about feelings with him. When in reality all they're doing is enforcing the "if I cry mom will come".

Then, if they put him down, and he cries again, immediately picking back up to talk again. He's barely over a year, he doesn't understand the talk, he doesn't understand you saying be nice to your nanny. All he knows is you're doing what he was trying to get you to do, so he'll do it again. And when you leave, it leaves me with a crying kid who doesn't understand why he didn't get what he wanted again.

And now, I understand separation anxiety. But this is just a plain tantrum. Fake as fake can be. No tears, watching to see if I can see. Moves so I CAN see if I'm somewhere else near by. And the parents are worried about him, saying he's so sad, and offer solutions

The only solution I need is for you to enforce not picking up just because you're sad. A hug, sit on the floor. Those are fine. But please stop coming to "help".

I'm just so annoyed and frustrated. It's hard to keep routine and structure when parents say whatever goes long as they're happy, when it's just going to promote the problem to keep happening.

Anyways, on a walk we go, that he'll fall asleep on and then won't have a nap. And then mom will want to "see him" as soon as he wakes up, when he wakes up early, which will make him repeat it like last week of waking up and watching for her and keeping himself awake until she does, regardless how long he napped or how tired he still is.