I'm a taken man, with a girlfriend of several years. I also spend a fair amount of time, in secret, chatting and playing with strangers online and have been doing so since I was a teen. It's an awful habit, for sure, but I'm simply compelled to do it every now and again as I just love connecting with people, discussing our kinks, and of course, getting each other off when the timing allows.

At any rate, I'd like to connect with someone new, in New York, for the express purpose of taking them to a unique strip club - more of an upscale lounge, really - located on the west side when I come to visit in early January (likely an evening between 1/7 and 1/10). Everything is above aboard and they have a liquor license, except unlike a lot of strip clubs, it's more laid back. There's no poles and no pressure. Just beautiful women milling about, eager to converse in a relaxed environment (as relaxed as such an environment can be), and dance for you if you care to part with $20 a song. I've been a few times in the past by myself and had a fantastic time. I'd like to go again when I visit New York, only this time I'd like you on my arm (or me on you arm, if you'd prefer). We can make up a story as to who we are when we go - close friends reunited, coworkers, a committed relationship, etc. - or maybe after getting to know each other a bit in advance we'd feel comfortable going as ourselves. Should we feel the desire to get a little hot and heavy given the particularly charged environment, even better, though nothing more than some making out and playful heavy petting. I've crossed several lines as it is, and while my moral compass may be broken, anything more than what I've already mentioned feels like a bridge too far at the moment. Once I'm single again down the road, sky's the limit.

Given the rather hefty expense involved with dances should we be there for a few hours, I do humbly ask that we pay our own way for dances that we buy for ourselves. That said, I think it would add to the fun if we bought each other dances. It doesn't have to be a strict tit (no pun intended) for tat. If I buy you some, I'm not expecting you to return the favor, and that should go for the reverse as well.

As for the rest of me, I'm 37, 6'2", with brown hair, blue eyes, glasses, a trimmed beard, and slim build. I've been referred to as "cute" by women that I would consider attractive by any metric; I'd describe myself as the handsome geeky type. Personal interests are standard fare: movies (I'll see anything from Parasite to Cats, even if just to marvel at its insanity), TV (loved the Watchmen sequel series), and video games (last game played was Luigi's Mansion 3). Interested in a wide variety of kinks, from rough play to semi public fun and beyond. Have typically been dominant in the bedroom but eager to explore a submissive side with the right woman, too. The type of woman I'm attracted to is of any race, height, and hair color, and without being able to come up with a better phrase for it, "conventionally attractive." Body type is slim to a little curvy; as long as you generally care about your appearance and take care of yourself I'm sure you look great. Perhaps a bit hypocritical, but I'd prefer that you not be attached, if only because I'd hope to not get swept up into any drama outside of my own. I won't rule it out entirely if you can make a compelling case for discretion on your end.

So there you have it! Chances are I'll take this down once I come to my senses, but if it's still up, I'm still crazy enough to see what can come of it. Send me a message and we'll go from there. I'll also share with you the website for the lounge so you can get a sense of what you're in for. If we hit it off, I'm certainly down to keep in touch.

Hope to chat soon!