For example, if socially there's a perceived behavior that telling someone they are overweight was a mean thing to say. And some guy, not having this same internal mindset, just went round telling everyone who was overweight that they are overweight, and it was hurting someone.

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Is it up to the individuals to understand him, and why he's doing it and have that compassion? Or up to him to learn communication that doesn't trigger other people? His observation is factual, yet it hurts.

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Same with other hurting behaviors that can be commonly known as hurtful in social situations, including ignoring a person's question or request instead of answering them.

Like without defining it as hurtful or even bad-mannered, how would our society be? We are seeing it nowadays where ghosting is acceptable behavior to some people, and not to some other people.