21M switch here. Lately I’ve been diving deeper into the kink community(just online so far to be fair) and have been wanting to look for other switches to experiment with, but honestly I feel they have been so hard to come by on other subreddits. It’s either others who want to be totally dommed or it’s super rare occasions of meeting someone who wants to dom and that’s if they aren’t a scammer or someone who’s strictly findom(side note I feel like I barely get to play around in my subby side). I do enjoy domming and I get told I do it well, I just wish I could have someone to do it all with. Someone to both dom AND sub with who’s also into the idea of a grander exploration of these dynamics. Again, I’m aware you could only get so much out of online stuff and sexting but it’s what I’m most comfortable and capable of doing atm but I’ll likely expand to irl stuff in the future. What are yall’s thoughts and experiences on this and have yall ever felt this way? What did yall do about it? Having to deal with finding balance and attention to both your subby and dom needs?