It was her first gangbang and the first I’ve set up, although I’ve been in three in the past (before I met her). The main rules were no cumming in her hair or on her face, no anal, no sexual play with her feet, and she wasn’t giving blowjobs (she has a really strong gag reflex). Everyone had to use condoms for penetration, but you could cum anywhere as long as it didn’t violate rule #1. Most guys chose to cum in the condom while inside her.

SwingLifeStyle and Fetlife - we posted event listings on both and then very lightly screened the guys, mostly based on their profiles on the sites and how they approached us (i.e. were they respectful, serious, did they act like they had some experience in the life, etc.). We put out a dozen invites and had only four no-shows, everyone that did show was solid. We didn’t have super strict criteria for age/looks or penis size, though, which I’m sure helped.

I watched until the end, the last guy came after everyone else had left, so I joined in and we Had a threeway.

I think that what matters most for a successful marriage is communication - if you communicate well, you can set your own rules. If you communicate poorly, following the "rules" isn't going to lead to a happy marriage. I'm not a cuck fetish guy - generally I roll more on the dominant side. I am bi, but more top than bottom. My wife and I view each other as sexual equals - we both like to make sure the other gets to do the things they want. In this case - she wanted a gangbang, so who was I to argue?

As for your own issues - just get your head out of that mindset entirely. Get to work on yourself, get a job. Bootstrap it. If you keep thinking of yourself as a loser, you won't get far.

A more serious reply - we aren’t rule followers. We both like to fuck, a lot, and fuck other people, and have new experiences. A few weeks ago we fucked a stripper, next month, who knows? Life is short.

Rules are for suckers 🤷‍♂️.

That general area

I will probably be posting more, possibly today - keep an eye out!

Overall she enjoyed it, but not as a regular rotation thing - we’ll probably stick to 3-4 guys max in the future. She came a lot, but not as intensely as when we have one on one sex. Definitely needed lube, especially with condoms, there’s just no way around it, I don’t think anyone can get and stay reasonably wet for four hours when condoms are in play. And no problem at all, that’s why we posted here!

Very! But not so bad she couldn’t walk today or anything.

She likes to be spanked while she’s fucking, but she’s not at all a sub - she just likes (relatively) rough sex.

No anal, we had contemplated trying DV but it didn’t happen. I think that will be better attempted in a smaller group.