I posted the other day asking if anyone wanted to chat. I got more replies than I could respond to, I wasn’t expecting that - cool!

I also received several messages from people who are not active in this sub, who expressed that they were “just curious” about me.

Some of the questions people asked were exactly what you’d expect, some were rather thought provoking, some were pretty fucking stupid.

Anyway, I understand the curiosity, whatever—what I don’t understand, is the weird attachment some of these people have formed after talking to me for a very, very short period of time.

Some seem to have some kind of savior complex and they’re just so determined to help me ✨change my ways✨ or whatever, and some seem compelled to learn as much as they can about “how I work” and are trying to understand me to an unnerving extent. I imagine this behavior stems from their own trauma, but like…go to therapy.

I have two people in my DMs I have quit talking to, and both have continued to message me on a daily or near daily basis despite my clear disinterest and lack of response. To you two, when you inevitably read this, I implore you to think about consent: Consent can be withdrawn at any time. If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no. A partner who is disengaged and nonresponsive has given you an answer and the answer is no.

It’s interesting to me how folks will complain that narcissists objectify others, but I sure feel like the object right now.