Given the pandemic, I'm not looking to meet up right away. But I'd love to start chatting over Reddit, text, etc., to plan for a time to meet.

I am a 33-year-old submissive guy with very little sexual experience. I am technically not a virgin, but only technically: I once penetrated a woman for all of 10 seconds before she asked me to pull out. (She was not into “vanilla” sex.) I’ve gone down on a couple of women, and I’ve had a handful of make-out sessions. But aside from those few fleeting encounters, most of my sexual experience to date has been in a BDSM context, mostly with professional dominatrices.

I am looking for a dominant woman or a couple willing to show me the ropes, literally and figuratively. I am especially interested in becoming proficient at oral sex. I've had a couple forced bi experiences and would love for that to be part of the dynamic. I really like what I call forced bi bartering — play with a woman that is conditioned on my pleasing her man. Other kink interests include bondage, pegging, light impact play, begging, and tease/denial. My limits are scat, kissing or rimming a man, CBT, extreme pain, and blood. Weirdly, despite my interest in forced bi, I am not into humiliation. I would prefer not to be denigrated or humiliated for my lack of sexual experience.

While I'm primarily looking for kinky fun, I think all relationships are more meaningful if there is mutual affection and respect. I would love to be your friend and confidant — someone you can talk to, ask a favor of, and lean on for emotional support. If that means being boyfriend and girlfriend, I would be thrilled. If you're only interested in sex, that's fine too. If you are married or in a committed relationship, I expect that you will only play with your partner's permission. I don't get involved with cheating.

About me: I’m 5’8 and 150 pounds, and I am mainly attracted to people who are similarly height-weight proportionate. Non-kink interests include video games, baseball, movies, and dogs. Send me a message with a little about yourself (and your partner, if applicable) if you think we might be compatible. Please include a picture in your first handful of messages, and feel free to blur part of your face if it makes you more comfortable. I'd rather save us both the hassle of exchanging tons of messages only to learn that there's no attraction. One-liners and chat requests will be ignored.

I live in Bergen County. I cannot host. I have a car and access to public transit, and I'm willing to travel about 90 minutes (which includes NYC).