I am a 36-year-old submissive guy with very little sexual experience. I’m happy to get into specifics, but suffice it to say I have not had much of a sex life for most of my adult life. I have, however, indulged in some BDSM, and I have a major "forced" bi fetish.

I am looking for a dominant woman or a couple willing to show me the ropes — literally and figuratively. I am especially interested in becoming proficient at oral sex with both women and men. I'm hesitant to bottom for a man, but I could be persuaded. Consider this an invitation to talk me into it. I have been fucked with a strap-on before, and I am definitely up for that. Other kink interests include bondage, sensory deprivation, and light impact play. My limits are scat, kissing or rimming a man, CBT, extreme pain, and blood. (Please do not try to talk me into violating my limits.) I’m not into humiliation, particularly as relates to my lack of experience or sexual prowess with women.

Physically, I’m 5’8 and 160 pounds, with a shaved head and a beard. I think I'm reasonably attractive, and I'm in decent shape. My dick is unremarkable. I'm not sure I could pick it out of a lineup.

When I'm not perving on reddit, I enjoy working out, reading, and playing with my nieces and nephew. I live in northern New Jersey (Bergen County) and cannot host. I have a car and access to public transit, and I'm willing to travel about 90 minutes (which includes NYC). I'm pretty far left on the political spectrum and prefer connecting with people who share my values.

Send me a message with a little about yourself (and your partner, if applicable) if you think we might be compatible. Please include a picture in your first handful of messages. I'd rather save us both the hassle of exchanging tons of messages only to learn that there's no attraction.