Public Opinion

Looking for opinions or feedback from someone with previous experiences as us: so this has happened to us a couple of times now after we invite a bull over and they are not able to perform. We do the typical pre-screening, sharing of pictures, ice breaker / rules conversation. We eventually invite what we assume to be the best candidate over for drinks and fun. After light conversation and things progressing to the adult portion of the evening, but after a few minutes the men seem to not be able to keep “UP”. Just wondering if this has happened to others and maybe we are going about something wrong. To give some background we are a hotwife couple in which I have a very high sex drive and love multiple partners. My husband(straight) is also present to enjoy the show and join in to fulfill a few of my fantasies. Is it stage fright? Too intimidating? These guys all active in the LS