TLDR version - 52YO fit Dominant spankophile in Durham area of NC seeks female sub (or submissive couple) for an ongoing kink focused relationship. Can easily travel in NC, SC VA DC and MD. Me hosting is preferred and can be arranged on short notice. Looking for IRL only, not online games.

My favorite kink is regular impact play, but all parts of control, objectification, bondage and discipline turn me on. I view each relationship with a sub as unique. I enjoying guiding and exploring each sub's journey to achieve a fulfilling experience for both of us. I am protective, nurturing and caring - I can be your mentor, your coach, your champion in life and career.

I am looking for subs and spankees and partners who want to integrate kink in their life and relationship. I would like a LTR if we find the chemistry is right. We will discuss and explore activities and vanilla things - but you know with a look when to go into sub mode. Hiking, cooking, cycling, yoga, chilling with netflix: yes, we will do all those things and more.

What do I look for? Honesty and authenticity. Common sense. Ethical behavior in all aspects of life.A love of kink and submission; including a desire to explore more. A curiosity about the world and desire to explore and understand.

I am white, fit, clean, groomed and well dressed and most women find me handsome. I am financially independent, successful and professional guy in everyday life. I tend to be a quiet leader who gains trust and confidence based on expertise and knowledge. I rarely get angry and never loose my temper.

Dominance and kink are linked to sexuality, this is not just about sex. I want to discuss your needs and see how we can make it work. Maybe you need a disciplinarian to keep you on track? Maybe you just love kink play and want to use as an outlet? Or maybe you are looking for something more like 24/7 TPE? Each of those is ok and could work for us! I do want something ongoing - just a quick hookup is not really my style.

Physical attraction matters. I am not too picky, but do prefer HWP. I am willing to have bdsm only sessions even if we don't become sexual - again if it works for both. A few photos of me: https://imgur.com/a/B8ZWGtH And yes, I do verify after we have established mutual interest. I have no kids, DDF, rarely drink. Non smokers only (420ok, usually vape ok).

For those into kink, I generally follow RACK principles. It should not need to be mentioned, but anything illegal, kids, animals or that is going to lead to severe injury is off the table. Should be hard limits for everyone. Generally not into: heavy scat, intentional blood, ABDL. I have a few other limits, but we can discuss that later.