I (M30) married my wife (F25) 4 months ago and we have been together only 2 weeks and do a long distance until she will move in April. We both were born and brought up in the middle east but are nationals of india and currently in USA

She happened to be exactly opposite of what I thought she was or what her parents potrayed her since we only spoke 45 mins before nikkah and her dad was always in front of her and never wanted us to speak in private. Earlier I thought this was to make it halal but now I believe he knew a short conversation with her would immediately check me out 1) I realized she had trouble with speaking hindi 5 days before nikkah which her parents cleared it saying she knows and made her talk in hindi and she spoke well. After marriage when I asked switching to hindi, she said she cannot process words really well. Why didnt she say this before marriage? You may argue why did not you confirm her if she speaks hindi or if she is comfortable. My question is why would I see that way when IK im marrying an indian muslim who has been living in usa since past 2 years only. 2) I have a stable job with proper visa sponsorship and it was agreed that she would join me immediately after marriage. Howeevr, I asked her parents to let her join and continue job for a few months atleast so she does not have resentment of career break coz of this marriage. Also I said 2-3 months should give me enough time to sort finances, take a home and get settled before she joins me. She later requested if she can complete 8 months instead of 2-3 months which I agreed stating it will give me more time to get things set 3) she then requested if she can finish her full contract which ends in 2026 May coz her manager doesnt want her to leave midway in 2025 april. I said I cannot agree to that. She then said she has to stand up for her own career and no one will stand for her career. I said why didnt you stand up before marriage when it was agreed to move in immediately? However she agreed she will move in april as discussed earlier but I also mentioned to not have resentment of leaving job. Her job pays half my salary, does not provide any sponsorship hence her parents wanted her to not join the job. She still insists that if she finishes her contract, she will get a 90k job which I think is unreasonable coz she just has 1 year to find a job, a job that provides h1b sponsorship (let alone likelihood of your name being picked) and gc sponsorship, all of which I have. 4) she is argumentative and against parents always, her parents knew this and still let this marriage happen even after knwoing what I want was very basic happy family. Point is her parents know her better than I do, then why let her marry me with the expectation that she will change and become more ovedient? 5) she mentioned her source of happiness is not her family or will not be her kids but rather herself (watch salamah’s interview on youtube) 6) she mentioned pregnancy is damaging for woman 7) she is not romantic in anyway, very macho kind, unfeminine, and will only think of herself and her career rather than us living together in house and figuring out things. 8) she mentoned she is still nt ready for marriage and trying to change - but what if she feels shes trying to change but not really changing? 9) she also said why is she having to give up her career to move with me while I get to keep my career

We are doing couples counselling and it has only been 2 sessions so far. Nothing has really improved coz the counsellor herself seems to be more on askin my wife to change and understand the purpose fo marriage. We took a female counsellor coz my wife said she would be more comfortable with a female counsellor but after 2 sessions the counsellor is 90% on my side and my wife may have resentment of the fact that why should she have to change?

You advice and suggestions will be appreciated.