My husband clearly wanted a “fork”. My profile said I’m a spoon (or maybe a spork). My mom told his mom I’m a spoon. I told him I’m a spoon.

Now we are married and he clearly isn’t happy that I’m a spoon.

And if I want this marriage to survive, I have to stop being a spoon.

BUT WHY NOT LOOK AT FORKS in the first place? Why CHOOSE a spoon and be unhappy that it’s not a fork?

Forks are good. Spoons are good.

But if you’re looking at a spoon and expecting it to be a fork no one is going to be happy.

His qubool hai was a lie. That’s what I’m crying about. 🥲

Edit:

What defines a spoon and fork IS NOT important. It is an analogy. What matters is he had a criteria which I obviously was not, and everyone is welcome to their own criteria.

We are in the 21st century in North America. Nobody forced him to make this decision.

It is not a weight or appearance issue.