Me and my partner are looking to get married at some point this year Insha’Allah. One thing my soon to wife to be has expressed is that she would like to go back to stay the night at her parents every Sunday. As this is a day where everyone is at home etc..

Please bear in mind her family home is a 10 minute drive from our family home and she can drive. I have also expressed to her that she can go as much as she needs to and spend the whole day if she wants but I don’t like the idea of staying once a week. She also expressed that she would like to continue sleepovers with her friend at their or her family house once every month or so. Lastly she also likes going to her cousins home which is around a 1 hour and 30 minute drive away and staying with them for a week or long weekend. As she gets on with his wife and kids. This is usually 2-3 times a year.

Here are my reasons on how I feel about it:

• I feel like a wife should take the responsibility and leave that part of her life behind and create a new life/home with her husband and her in laws. Which are very welcoming of her and I’ve seen how they treat my sister in laws who live away. My wife would be living with just me and my parents. The house has plenty of space for privacy too. Plus going back home and getting involved in her family issues with her not living there can also be problematic? As she doesn’t get on particularly the best with her brother/his wife and dad at times.

• She’s soon to be 28 years old and think this whole ideas of sleepovers is something a woman shouldn’t be doing. Doesn’t sit right with me as I think it’s time to build a new part of your life with your other half. As I also feel like I would also spend less time with friends after being married and focus on my marriage and creating a family environment.

The whole idea don’t sit right with me, I just get an odd feeling about it. Please let me know your thoughts or experiences?

Thank you!