Salams! I am a new Muslima and I am slowly trying to Islamize different aspects of my life, while coming from a liberal American setting. There are certain things about Islamic married life that I am unsure of so I am hoping that people here will help me understand.

I know that in Islam, derogatory and insulting nicknames are prohibited. But my husband, who is a born Muslim, will often call me with English love nicknames that will have a very derogatory meaning if those words were taken literally.

For example, he will say things like "You are my (insert the "F" profanity) (female dog)!

But when those words are spoken in an American romantic context, then we do not assign the literal dictionary meaning to them. Instead we assign a meaning that is grounded in American bedroom slang. I personally do not mind because we are married and I know this is nothing but pure marital-love which sometimes it creates its own language different from the one we use in our public lives.

As I am slowly becoming spiritually conscious, I worry that he may one day answer for all this even when he I am not taking the least bit of offense in any of this. I discussed it with him and he says "what I call you in private is no ones business. God is well aware of the emotions behind it."

Is this a common thing in Islamic marriages? Or is my husband going out of whack here?

Shukran!