so i was having a conversation with my friend.. (same friend from the other post)

he is of the opinion since i masterbate, and met few people - i did not really do sabr/patient and maybe thats why all these years my duas to help me, maybe become straight didnt get accepted.. my take is that i witheld from getting a partner/mate.. and when it got too much i masterbated - but he says by doing this i didnt believe in God or have sabr.. in his mind sabr would have been if i didnt do anything and then maybe God would have listened to my duas. and he says i was lying to him when i said i am going through this 'test' and whether i really want God to change me because i wank and have met few people (mind u no sex, just touching etc)

My take is that people can sin, realise their mistake and repent and STILL ask ALLAH to change them,,, doing sin (which is what makes us human) doesnt mean we dont realise our mistake..

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Edited to add my Q is simply: along the lines of is he RIGHT to say ' i didnt do sabr' when i ocasionally indulged in sin (wnaking & few times met people), does it make my plight any less difficult..