So I work in retail and a guy came up to me today to tell me I'm 'sexy as hell' and to ask for my phone number.

This is the second time this week. He's at the very least twice my age, and because I don't pass and am very obviously effeminate he knows I'm a trans woman. I've told him I'm not interested and that I have a girlfriend on both occasions.

This isn't the first time I've been hit on at work, but it's the first time it's been a repeated issue. He's extremely forward about how he sees me and it's extremely uncomfortable.

Of course it's harassment by definition, but when I think about confronting him about it I just feel guilty. I don't want to embarrass or offend this guy, but I also don't want this to continue.

Why do I feel this way? Every other woman I know has no problem telling off guys that act like this. I don't know why it feels different for me.

And assuming he comes back to the store, how should I handle this situation? I want this to stop but telling him no isn't enough.