22 here.

My stepmom doesn't understand anything. She's not trans though. She acted like it was weird that it took me so long to open up to her about being trans, telling me "there's a norm around these things now." Sure, sort of. We're sort of accepted in some places. But not long ago just being trans practically guaranteed social pariah status, and things are only a bit better now. Like she just doesn't get where the fear might come from. "Trans people are perfectly accepted now, so your fear isn't warranted" according to her.

She also questioned me if I was trans and asked me if I was just psychotic or delusional instead. She pointed to the fact that I had sideburns I hadn't shaved in a while, and that I had an unshaved mustache when I first moved in with them. I totally understand why passive aggressiveness fucking sucks now. Maybe I didn't shave them because I have a fucking job and I can't sit and shave myself for two hours .

She also pointed to the soap I use, and since it was Old Spice, and Old Spice is "manly" in her mind, that was proof of her stupid accusations that I was lying or crazy. I mean, picture that, someone micro-analyzing your life just to try and invalidate your own experience. That's the real crazy here.

Why does she have to think she's an expert on my own experience?

People are freaky. I understand why I spend so much time alone now.

Sorry for the rant.